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How To Silence Yourself and Prosper

Earlier this year I was privileged to be coached by one of the top white paper copywriters around.

Although the call was recorded and later downloaded in mp3 format, I didn’t listen again because the top 3 actions were in my head and the next step was obvious; to start implementing them.

On a recent weekend’s computer tidy-up, I came across the file quite by chance and decided to give it a whirl again while commuting by train.

Imagine my befuddled brain’s surprise around 7:03 am when the copywriter’s introduction came through loud and clear but little old me was nowhere to be heard!

At first I was annoyed at possibly having damaged the file and therefore losing the benefit of my contributions. However, as I listened carefully, a most interesting dialogue was taking place:

ME: (probably, since there was only silence. 1 minute, 2 minutes passes. What could I possibly be saying that takes so long? It must be really important or complicated!)

COACH: It’s not a question of trying. You CAN do this.

And so it went on for about the first 15 minutes.

I wasn’t consciously aware of it but I must have been asking questions from a position of doubt and insecurity. We’re talking about making significant monthly sums as a copywriter here, and that possibly explains my hesitation. Even so, it was a revelation to come across so negatively.

Ask For and Listen to Feedback

Although this copywriter is not a coach by profession he had an uncanny knack for picking up on my inexperience and self-doubts, and coaching it gently to begin believing that specific and regular actions plus application of learned knowledge are the sure way forward.

To be honest, I’m pleased that my voice has gone AWOL from the recording. Why? Because all I need is the advice he was giving.

My excuses are simply irrelevant to the matter at hand.

You might not have the luxury of recorded coaching conversations to go over but where you do have trusted friends or family to discuss plans and goals and dreams with, why not take the opportunity to ask them what they really thought YOU were saying.

Their responses may surprise you.

I’d also recommend that you write some of these down and then really think about what their perspective of you and your actions/behaviors might be saying. Is it possible they’re right? And what can you do right away to begin making constructive changes by using that feedback?